Modest Mentor Series~Jordan

Welcome to Pure Modesty’s, Modest Mentor Series!

In the spirit of Titus 2, I have asked women whom I greatly respect and admire to answer a few questions that relate to modesty. I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers nor have I arrived at being a “Modest Mentor” myself, because dressing modestly is more than just skirts!

I hope the interviews in this series will be helpful wherever you are in your journey of becoming a virtuous woman!


Today's interview is with Jordan from Choosing Home.

The term Modesty has a broad definition these days. What does Modesty mean to you?

Modesty, to me, means dressing and behaving in a way that glorifies God. Having regard for decency of behavior, speech and dress, with the intention to bring attention to my character, above all else.

Have you always dressed modestly? Why? (If not describe briefly what changed.)

Since I was little, my parents taught me the importance of dressing with decency. I tried to glorify God on the subject of modesty, and I believe that I did.  But over this past year, God has revealed to me that I should not be comparing my modesty to others' modesty.  That I should seek His Word for defining what He requires of me.  As a result I have become more aware of my behavior.  I have also slowly removed items from my closet that I feel could bring attention to something other than my character.  And the Lord has blessed me with new items to replace them. 

How would you answer "I can dress how I want because Jesus looks at the heart!"?

I believe that Jesus cares very much about our hearts.  But, my outward appearance should be a reflection of my inward commitment to Him. 

1 Samuel 16:7 says "... The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

This verse tells me that my heart is the most important, to the Lord.  But, if man looks at my outward appearance wouldn't I want that to be a reflection of my commitment to Jesus?  To me, modesty is as much about my heart as it is my wardrobe.  I pray that strangers would look at me and think that I must be a follower of Jesus, because of what they see on the inside and the outside.  

What do you think is the greatest challenge women face today when it comes to purity and virtue?

I believe some women do not have a Godly role model, setting examples of how and why to be modest.  If purity {freedom from anything that contaminates} and virtue {moral excellence} had never been shown to me, it would be easy to live with no standards.  It can also be easy to place your self-worth in what others think of you, instead of what God says about you.

Did you have a mentor?  If not, who was your greatest womanly influence?

I guess I would consider my momma my mentor.  She has definitely been the greatest womanly influence in my life.  She taught me stories of the virtuous women of the Bible including Esther, Ruth and Sarah.  And she lives them out daily.  What a privilege to learn from her.

Would you like to share any other wisdom with my readers?

Please do not think that my answers are how you should live.  The Lord is still pruning me into His beautiful creation!  I pray that my contribution has encouraged you to seek the Lord’s approval for your modesty.  Some verses to think on: Colossians 3:12; 1 Peter 3:3-6; 1 Timothy 4:12; 2 Timothy 2:9-10.

Jordan is a 21 year old Stay At Home Daughter, by choice, being trained in the things of the Lord by her wonderful parents. She is the 2nd oldest of 6 children and has the privilege of staying home to enjoy her family every day. She is striving to become who she feels the Lord wants her to be. Realizing that being a stay at home daughter may not be the Lord’s calling for everyone, she loves it! She is biracial and left-handed. She enjoys worship, modest dresses, scrapbooking & photography. She prays that she will be an encouragement to others.